Dear Henry

 Dear Henry,

Today you turn TWO! It has been a rollercoaster ride with more twists and turns than I ever thought possible. You can absolutely melt me with a smile, laugh, and a snuggle!

Most days are a battle though. I can't sugar coat it nor am I going to try. I love you with every part of my
being and I am doing everything I can to help you thrive. To help you communicate. To help make sure you know that I will be there every day. Forever. To know that regardless of the rough times we've had over the last couple of years, I can't imagine life without you now. 

As hard as it is some days, I know that I was meant to be your mom. The reasoning behind it I am still trying to figure out, but I know you were meant to be mine and I will work every day to make sure you are loved and given every opportunity to thrive! 

We joke that you have the most expensive hair in the house and let me tell you! We ain't wrong. We have put so much into trying to help you develop, it almost makes me sick, but let me tell you, I'd give up everything if it meant you got to have a better life. A happy life. A life where you can communicate and grow and play and laugh all the time. 

I know you have angels watching over you and I love when you lay in your bed and just talk to them. It gives me some sense of peace knowing that the one's I wish were here to meet you and love on you are still able to give you that sense of love and protection. 

You have an amazing teacher at school who adores you!!! I don't know where we'd be without her. She is
patient, kind, attentive, loving, just everything that you need! You adore her just as much and I love the connection you have with her! 

While it's slow progress, you are growing so much in your therapies and learning new things. You're therapists dote on you and celebrate in every single win. No matter how small. 

Your brother and sister absolutely love you and I know their lives are changed forever because of you. They want to help and hold you all the time, even when you cry. I know those connections will only grow as you all get older. You will have two very protective siblings for life. 

Your grammy, gaga, grandma, and papa Mark can't get enough of you and are so accepting of who you are. They've adapted to your challenges and have figured out how to connect with you in a different way than they ever thought they'd have to. The same goes for your auntie and uncles and cousins! You have so many who are interested and here for you! You have so much love and support around you, it's incredible. 

Another year has passed and while it has been really difficult for your mama, I am excited for what is to come. I know there will be a day where you are able to communicate. Able to move intentionally. Able to be a part of this life the way you should be. I know it may look different than I would have wanted, but I know this is exactly where you are meant to be. 

I want you to know that even on days of frustration. Days of defeat. Days where I don't know if I can do it anymore. I will still rise. I will always find the strength to be what you need. 

I love you sweet boy! Happy Birthday!!


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